I found this story and it made me really think about the line between morality, society and the definition of love. There were many different sides to whether the donation of a woman’s egg to another woman due the moral and ethical dilemmas each side presents. As a mother is there really an age that determines whether or not woman over 40 years of age should have children. Is there a time that we should not have children? How does this effect the donor long term? Is this selfish and or selfless? What are the potential issues and consequences that can surface in the future?
As a mother, there is nothing more beautiful to hold a wonderful new bundle of joy in my arms. The soft cooing and helpless unscripted movements of the limbs, eyes and smiles so I understand why there is that need, that feeling any woman would when holding a child of their own. However, it made me a little wary knowing that they went to extreme lengths as to put an advertisement in the newspaper and online. Was there a discussion about a monetary exchange and in what amount constitutes “selling a baby”?
There are so many angles with this story and I’d love to hear your opinions.
Leave your comments!
Original video: Desperate parents buying donor eggs on the black market | 60 Minutes Australia
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I’m sure that we are all getting anxious wanting to go outside at the first sign of spring. In my place in the world, I’m still skeptical. That being said, I’ve been finding creative ways to keep my children and myself busy indoors. I received my birthday/Mother’s Day presents early ( a pasta maker and juicer kitchennaid attachments and a Nespresso machine ) so I’ve been enjoying them tremendously. So far I have made linguini, spaghetti on the first round and homemade ramen noodles. I must say that homemade ramen is WAY better than the prepackaged dehydrated kind.
On my other hobbies and pursuits, I’ve been learning lots about ball jointed doll making. I have yet to design and create my own so that is next on the list of things to self teach.
Doll making still has my heart and I have furthered even better ways to get my dolls out to so many more people that use them for therapy and to simply make them smile. My son found all the family photo albums including some scrapbook ideas I had in storage. We had fun looking through them so we decided to work on that project this week. As much as this lockdown has disrupted our lives it has also allowed me to stay in the present. I now know exactly where my scrapbook items are and there is no excuse for me not to complete them. I think it will be fun for my youngest to actually get familiar of what a physical photograph is.
The most challenging thing for me to do lately is to remain inspired. To shake things up I found a couple iBooks to read. It’s nice to read on the socials, texting, messaging.. but it is nice to take a break from the pace of the social media world and read a book that has more focus and direction. lol as much as I love chatting with my online world, having a direction feels a lot more calming on my brain lately. People are getting emotional so I’m trying to remain as positive as I can.
It’s easy to get sucked into the fears and panic of those that surround you but the most important thing is to be there for them. Transition is hard for all of us.
I hope you are all having a peaceful week.
More to come be happy and be grateful always…
P.S. Checkout my Pinterest recipe boards, I’ve tried and will be trying some recipes and activities from some pretty amazingly creative people on there. Also checkout my YouTube Channel where I’ll take you on my adventures too!
Another year is getting ready to wrap things up and it has been a very interesting and turbulent time, however I’m pleased with my accomplishments and I’m looking forward to a fresh new start. Although it’s been an annual cliche I really do feel like I’m ready to take on more new adventures with some wonderful new people who have entered my life.
Out with the old is an understatement especially when I unknowingly walked into a situation with the wrong toxic people. It’s safe to say that they not only took themselves out of my life but things have been so much better like a breath of fresh air. I did come out better and ready for many more adventures without anyone holding me back. A stagnant life is not living it is a fast way on the road to death and I am simply not ready to leave yet.
I have met some wonderful people who are more my speed and less emotionally chaotic. The new year also brings more preparations for huge projects with my new partners via getting the word about Multiple Sclerosis. I feel that new medications and newly diagnosed patients do need a voice while the world is getting more aware of what the disease is, what it does and how big the spectrum is.
I will also have open discussions with other patients from every spectrum of the disease and how it not only effects us individually but our family and friends as well. I have met many people from all over the world and I believe it’s time to share the things that I’ve learned that can help others.
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P.S. check out my latest Podcast Straight to the Points episode: Swallow my content
September 2019 is here the kids are in school in full swing and I’m getting myself ready for my much anticipated radio adventure. I’ve finally completed all the work in the background which is imperative so I can make active and progressive moves. I’ve had many radio shows either sole hosting or co-hosting and it has been so much fun. Not only have I had fun but I’ve learned from so much from my technology-loving partners and friends.
For this round and with full support, partnerships and sponsors I’m confident there is still so much more fun to be had. We are putting some interviews together with upcoming artists and their latest tracks. Schedules are being finalized for live stream shows both video and radio collabs and omg I can’t wait!
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Summer is in full force and things are looking pretty amazing. I am finally able to move things around and get organized before the Back to School storm. Over the last couple of weeks I’ve been focusing on my baking skills and some snacks for the boys after they have their many sessions of basketball, football and playing catch.
Many years ago, when I had 4 kids all under the age of 10 and living in Alberta, Canada, my children’s favourite snack were chocolate chip cookies. They were very particular about the kind of cookie the requested, though, they had to be “Hockey Cookies”. My neighbour introduced the recipe to me and told me they were the perfect recipe for those cold after school days and we found very soon after that they were good for every day for my kids. My neighbour explained that she would make these cookies for her sons after hockey games and practice.
Now that I have some extra time on my hands, I’ve decided to resurrect my joy of cooking and what better way than cookies? Naturally, I turned to Pinterest to see if I could find the recipe and I also wondered if it was the same? The name is now “Hockey Puck” chocolate chip cookies and using a muffin tin is a fabulous “Eureka” moment! I used the good old baking sheet method with this recipe and it didn’t hold at all which had NOTHING to do with the recipe! I had to finagle the recipe, for example, I didn’t have Vanilla Extract, walnuts nor corn syrup. I also forgot that 2 sticks of butter does not mean a full bar. At my grocery store, I usually get a bar of butter that is equivalent to 2 cups of butter instead of 1 cup of butter. So yup, you guessed it I totally over buttered the whole recipe. I problem solved my way into finding a deep dish casserole baking pan and scooped the rest of the batter into it. I set the oven for the same baking temperature and time.
After cooling the Hockey Puck cookies turned into a dense Hockey Rink Cookie Cake! In less than 12 hours the rink was devoured. With more requests from my pterodactyls, I corrected the recipe with using the proper amount of cookies, I still didn’t add the walnuts, corn syrup nor the vanilla extract however it still tasted delicious! The third try remained fluffy with the denseness of a brownie or a Hello Dolly dessert. I was thinking of doing a spin on this Hockey Rink Cookie Cake with Hello Dollies hmmm… a Hockey Hello Dolly, a Rinkside Hello Dolly Cookie Cake? I’ll work on the dessert and I’d love for you to give me ideas on a name!
If you try the original and my spin on the recipe let me know!
Thank you to Great Grub, Delicious Treats for your inspiration and your fantastic recipe!
#chocolatechipcookies #baking #stilettosupermom #noms
2017 ended with a lot of promise and a lot of planning and like every year previously, I have to start with a new planner. Now I have always had a journal where I would write out random thoughts, short stories, poems, ideas, etc. but I noticed that over time and as I found myself disciplining my thoughts more to tailor towards my goals, I found that my journals were feeling more like a “security blanket”. I was reading back through my writing and it was becoming more random and sadly I was even writing less frequently. I can freely admit this was most likely due to depression from fighting SJS, but I also feel that my writing instruments were getting a little outdated and boring. I came across the one bullet journal video and then before you know it I ended up watching a string of youtube videos for the entire day. I did some research on some different dot paper notebooks, art pens, art markers.. I placed my Amazon order, stalked it and waited impatiently for my new bullet journal adventure to begin.
Yes, I am a gadget girl and I do use my iPhone calendar for appointments, alarms etc. but guys, there just isn’t anything in this world that can ever compare to the power and magic of the pen to paper. I am and always will be a writer they are my favourite tools in the world. Since I’ve been using the bullet journal system, while adding some creative touches of my own, I’ve managed to be a lot more productive and inspired in my artwork as well. I kept my creative energy flowing and decided to move into a new studio with bigger space and amazing lighting.
Since I’ve been doing some much needed redecorating, I decided to include some of my art dolls into my room decor. Now, reborn doll collecting is a fairly new so displaying them is left in actual baby furniture, etc there are no stands for them. So I found a pillow in the shape of an elephant. I was so excited to find it because who doesn’t want a heffalump pillow?!
It’s definitely the right time for big moves!
I’m always on the look out for some really great movies and documentaries on Netflix and I’ve always found little hidden gems on this streaming network. I haven’t been disappointed so it’s safe to say that Netflix has given me pretty good recommendations as per my profile. This documentary, “I AM JANE DOE”, was one that immediately caught my eyes.
The documentary is ultimately dark and a sad truth of the reality these day. All the freedom to explore and have great experiences all at your fingertips. The internet has become a double-edged sword for us all, some good and some bad. If you are on the internet at all, you already have experience be it sharing family outings to being trolled by some random stranger. This movie is not the romantic side of the internet, but it shows the very real horrors of being on the internet.
Human trafficking. Just those two words together is enough to make anyone’s skin crawl, but unfortunately it is a very real epidemic that doesn’t just happen in third world countries. It seems like our North American lives turns a blind mind towards the realities of Human Trafficking. Believe it or not, North America is a haven for kidnapped children who are then sold to the long awaited customers. In this day and of age of 2017, our children are not only being kidnapped and ripped from our parental arms, but our children are at risk every moment of every day.
After watching this movie you will not only hug your children a lot more, but you will be also empowered to be proactive with your children. No one is really protected on the internet. It’s no different than being exposed to the same crimes out in public. Unfortunately, money talks and politicians are easily swayed from doing the right thing to doing what is easiest. The truth is that we are on our own, we can’t ask the government for help when they have no answers. We have to educate ourselves and our children and although we are very “free” we will always be an arms length from harm. Our complacency leaves our children in very real danger.
I encourage you to watch this documentary and use it as a tool to protect those that you love. Predators don’t hide in the shadows anymore, they hide in plain sight through the internet. Protect your babies by educating them and yourself, that’s the first defence.
You know those corny sayings that seem to clog the internet, you know, the ones where they are supposed to inspire you or uplift you? I read those quotes and I find one common thread between them all and that is the moment I was reading them, I should have been moving on and taking the next step towards my goal. As positive as they are, these are things we should be telling ourselves on a daily basis. I’m a strong believer in self preservation for the sake of the quality of life that you really want.
I was doing research, making appointments, drafting plans… and I stopped myself and smiled. In all my adulthood, 2017 has been the best I have had yet. I used to do things here and there, not out of things I had to do but for things I felt I needed to do. Going with the flow and letting go of this invisible control we all think we have.
Today, I started to notice how all the things I’ve been doing up to this point have come to fruition. I used to get stressed out when I didn’t know what was going to happen after working so hard. Now, I find myself smiling more and knowing that this whole journey was preparing me for something bigger than just what I love to do. I’m on my way to fulfill that mission I gave to myself.
My new addiction… The art of letting go…
It's the Civic Holiday weekend and it feels like the summer months passed by so fast! I blame most of this on the weirdest weather I've seen in years! It would rain so hard it sounded like hail against my windows, thunderstorms at least once a week followed by extreme heat where I could hardly breathe. Although, I'd rather have this weather than the upcoming winter months.
The back-to-school supplies and clothing are in all the stores, I can almost hear my bank account cry for my school shopping days that are just around the corner. It will be an emotional school year for me as my last little pterodactyl will be leaving the nest to go to school. So far, he knows his numbers up to 10 and backwards, but he refuses to sing the alphabet song lol. Thanks to the iPad he does know what the letters are, but he just doesn't like the song. I'm guessing that he thinks the song is dumb, he rolls his eyes every time I ask him to sing it.
Lately, my days are filled with doll orders and event planning. It's a truly exciting time for me. I have found what I love in all aspects of my life from the kids, social life and now my artistry. They often say that when your personal life is good everything else around is chaos. I am living proof that the saying is NOT true. We all need to find the balance in our own lives or things get harder and harder to do. It's like the universe makes some things in our lives difficult in order to accept something better in our lives. "Out with the old, in with the new" has a deeper meaning than we think. This whole year has unraveled many important life choices for me. My family relationships have been stronger now than ever, financial security is finally here, reuniting with my childhood best friend, maintaining deeper relationships with my friends from all over my online world and forming new amazing friendships who have cleared my mind and settled my soul.
Yes, you can have it all, yes abundance is attainable. If you want these things, you have to release everything that you know is holding you back. It will seem so difficult to let go, but it will be worth it and those difficult moments you are experiencing right now, will be in your distant past. Right when you're about to give up hope is when you have to gather up as much strength as you have to get through the rough moments. You will see your end goals, not when YOU want to see it, but when you're ready to accept it.
I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis 7 years ago and I’ve come to understand my disease more and more each day. It’s much like riding a bike or driving, I remember how to do all those things regardless of how long it’s been since you tried riding each. MS is constantly called the “Monster” for good reason. There is no cure for MS and it leaves permanent damage everywhere it travels.
I’ll be going over the disease in a self-documentation of what my symptoms are and the various treatments that I have been trying over the years. I’m still learning more and more about my disease as well as being aware of how these symptoms have effected myself physically, emotionally and mentally.
I hope you enjoy my MS and Me serious.
I will post the video on my YouTube channel under: StilettoSupermom
Off we go…..
MS and Me Vlog Intro
MS and Me Vlog 1