A word of warning..

This post is about a hard lesson I had to learn. Friendship and business will not work if one of the parties has suspect motives.

I started an event with someone I thought I could trust.

In November 2017, we discussed our plans and I signed a contract for the show venue with a deposit. We both paid the deposit. She then suggested that I change my website to American money and she would have her IT person to run it. It was HORRIBLE and the IT didn’t return my calls nor give a simple email. And so… the sabotage began…

The whole point of starting a Doll show in Canada is because my fellow Canadian artists were struggling to attend American shows with our Canadian dollar so weak. Because she is a stubborn ass, she didn’t like the way my show was planned, she wanted all the attention on her booth space and that was not fair to my other vendors. I also didn’t agree with the website being priced in US dollars for a Canadian show! So I took my website back. She was not happy. She then asked me to use this joke of a planner who wanted to stick signs in the ground for a college that was in the worst part of my city. I should’ve known when she left a family emergency to have a meeting with me and this other planner! Who would choose a meeting over family?! Also not my style.

I should’ve known that when someone talks about every single artist’s love life and personal struggle they probably don’t have much of a life and they are not a trustworthy person. She would tell me all kinds of space cadet things about how wonderful her life was and how “nice” she was however her own family member warned me about her. In reality, she is a struggling business woman with very shady business practices.

I allowed my dolls to be in her store to show my work. She did not purchase them. I never accepted a discount for any supplies that I purchased that is not my style to do, I’m an artist investing in myself. Her paint was dry and it ruined some of my dolls I was preparing for the show. I was devastated and didn’t think I could fix them in time, but I didn’t give up and fixed them!

4 months before the show, I was to have my first medical infusion instead of showing support she told me she was backing out because she didn’t understand why I was compensating the teachers with a booth, travel and hotel accommodations. It seemed pretty straightforward but I guess in all her years she lost her common sense.

After over a year of planning and 4 months before the show and medical recovery, my husband would not let me cancel the show. With the risk of death looming and I was losing my vision, I asked him to make sure my children understood that I wanted to do something good for the artwork that saved my mental and physical state over 10 years ago. Our backer was now sabotaging me and our plans. It was sad and pathetic.

My family begged me not to cancel the show, my son was preparing speeches, my family was preparing to travel from all over the world.. vendors were preparing, participants were emailing me how excited they were.. I had to either cancel or keep going.

Out from nowhere, another friend came to the rescue. She would not let me quit and did everything she could to make sure I was recovering and as stress free as possible. We whipped up whatever we could and continued on with plans. Of course there were hiccups and confusion, overall I’m extremely proud of what my team of family and friends accomplished.

In order to have peace of mind and to close this chapter I decided to write the following personal letter and I would love your opinions:

Over much deliberation I’ve decided to continually support all my Canadian entrepreneurs with those who have proper business practices. I will not deal with thieves and those that extort money from artists.

I still haven’t received my money for my Liam doll that was sold for $750 October 2018 and while I was recovering from a serious infusion my husband and my friend had to pay $900 to get my dolls back. Luckily, my artwork was brought back to me and I was able to put them in my booth!

Lol when I received a pile of unorganized hand written invoices with no back up documentation and what I allegedly “owed” I was told that the amount was in American but purchased from a Canadian store that is so weird! So I converted it and uh.. it turned out I would’ve owed only $300 but wait I also sold a doll for $450 and still nothing in my hand. I’ve been in business for many years and this kind of practice is just so strange. I may not be a famous artist but I do know that someone that preys on an artist’s hard work through “friendship” is really someone I will never want to deal with in any fashion. All is not lost I will buy my kits directly from the sculptors I love because I want every penny to go to them, I know what the actual definition of integrity is. Do you know?

Leave a comment and let me know if I should send it.

Productively Positive

I must say I’m uber proud of myself! Not only have I had so much success with my event planning, but I have been sticking to my schedule by uploading and posting on time with my doll channel. I have an amazingly strong team behind me full of energy and positivity!

My Creative Director has left me gobsmacked with her ideas and proactivity, I feel truly blessed. We had some early bumps in the road with some hits and misses with my team, but we finally have our footing and the right people who are ready for 2019!

It’s an amazing feeling to see my ideas and goals come to fruition. As an entrepreneur I admit I was afraid that my vision was misunderstood. My advice to those preparing to run a business is to hold on to that vision until the right people come into your life. I held on for the right time and boom I’ve had nothing but positive results and I’m now surrounded with strong professionals that are self motivated and love what we do.

In this sea of competition, I believe that many people lose sight of what really matters. When dollars and cents are involved it can clash with the pure love of the art. I’ve seen many people blur the two things and end up in competition with each other. Well, my fellow indie artists, the only challenge you should ever accept is the one with yourself. Art is interpretive some will love your work some will like others’ work don’t let that discourage you! There are billions of people on this earth you will find your “people” you will find your niche.

I find it very sad when I see people envious or jealous. Those are 2 horrible traits to have, let those things go! They serve no purpose but destruction of relationships and contribute to the destruction of your soul. Steer clear of poisonous people and their venom and never second guess yourself. Sometimes the most venom comes in the form of a friend, a coworker and even a family member, you will rise above and you will recover. Trust your instincts, you know, that voice in your head or that knot in your stomach even the warnings of others. I love the saying “listen to what people tell you about themselves because they’re right” not sure if that was Dr. Phil, lol, be aware that you do have a choice to ignore, deny or accept those warnings to be true. I admit to ignoring those warnings in my past and sure enough the outcome was not a good one.

Going into 2019 with a heart full of happiness and a plan is the only way I choose to start this year off right. I hope you all find your footing and wish you a positive and productive new year!

SS

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Bullet journals & Heffalumps

2017 ended with a lot of promise and a lot of planning and like every year previously, I have to start with a new planner.  Now I have always had a journal where I would write out random thoughts, short stories, poems, ideas, etc. but I noticed that over time and as I found myself disciplining my thoughts more to tailor towards my goals, I found that my journals were feeling more like a “security blanket”.  I was reading back through my writing and it was becoming more random and sadly I was even writing less frequently.  I can freely admit this was most likely due to depression from fighting SJS, but I also feel that my writing instruments were getting a little outdated and boring.  I came across the one bullet journal video and then before you know it I ended up watching a string of youtube videos for the entire day.  I did some research on some different dot paper notebooks, art pens, art markers.. I placed my Amazon order, stalked it and waited impatiently for my new bullet journal adventure to begin.

Yes, I am a gadget girl and I do use my iPhone calendar for appointments, alarms etc. but guys, there just isn’t anything in this world that can ever compare to the power and magic of the pen to paper.  I am and always will be a writer they are my favourite tools in the world.  Since I’ve been using the bullet journal system, while adding some creative touches of my own, I’ve managed to be a lot more productive and inspired in my artwork as well.  I kept my creative energy flowing and decided to move into a new studio with bigger space and amazing lighting.

Since I’ve been doing some much needed redecorating, I decided to include some of my art dolls into my room decor.  Now, reborn doll collecting is a fairly new so displaying them is left in actual baby furniture, etc there are no stands for them.  So I found a pillow in the shape of an elephant. I was so excited to find it because who doesn’t want a heffalump pillow?!

It’s definitely the right time for big moves!

SS

 

Movie Review: The Founder

This is a great rags-to-riches story. A lot of people don’t know that the McDonalds corporation is actually based on realty deals and land purchases. The movie takes you on a journey through the ups and downs of growing a business.

There are twists and turns that organically develop emotionally with family and friendships. Ruthless business decisions are aggressively made showing the destruction of a lot of relationships. I love business development it’s exciting and fun yet filled with some hard decisions.

They say business is like swimming with sharks, it could be true in many cases, however in my years of diving in and out of corporate life things always even itself out.

Everything that crumbles will be rebuilt. Everything wrong will be made right. Things may seem bleak and even cutthroat but maybe we have to be challenged in order to push ourselves passed the tough times.

Watch it on Netflix

SS

The iPhone game

I recently purchased an iPhone 7 and I absolutely love it! The size, the weight, the features etc. I agonized over whether I should get it as soon as it was launched. I finally had my chance to upgrade to the 7 and I have no regrets.

Now, the annual iPhone has arrived. This version… iPhone 8.

As a gadget lover I love following the technology trends and watching how far we’ve come. From Bluetooth connections to drones, green screens to flat screens we’ve seen all the developments. Of course I was excited to see what Apple had to offer with the iPhone 8.

Hmmm…

I read all the specs and watched the forever genius ads and videos about the iPhone 8, but I didn’t expect the newest development Apple had to offer was made of glass!! What the..? This took me back to the iPhone 4 when the glass would crack on both the front and the back of the phones if dropped. Why, Apple? Why?! I celebrated the fact that a phone case is optional but now I look at the future of iPhones and I’m confused as to why such advanced phone technology is contained in glass. This is such a disappointment. I’m sure the bells and whistles are amazing, however if it’s housed in glass how could that technology be protected without a case? It just seems odd that the engineers picked this kind of packaging. It just doesn’t make sense.

I don’t see the iPhone 8 or the X in my future. The seduction of the camera advancements almost had me, but the glass design totally lost me.

Who knows? I may change my mind after a few demos and unboxings or I may jump off the iPhone bus. For now, I’ll be cuddling my iPhone 7 doing selfies, making videos, running my businesses and playing on social media for as long as iOS allows.

*sighs

SS

My upgraded gadgets, kinda

It’s time for the yearly hype over the new iPhone, we are now on version 8. I have a different strategy for staying in the phone game.

I used to work in a computer store, which sold cellphones too. Fido was a huge trend at the time and Bell was considered high end. The networks have evolved completely and so was the hardware. As you may already know. I am a gadget girl you can even say I’m a bit of a electronics junkie. The electronics game is fast paced and can cost you quite a bit of money.

I never get the first models that come out for example, the iPhone 8 will be released in a couple of weeks, I buy the iPhone 7. I get more bonuses, promotions and incentives. In general, more options for less money.

If there’s a major change in design and features of electronics (like a Sony PlayStation) I wait for a year for the bugs and glitches to be fixed before I buy it.

For apps, there are so many to choose from. I try as many apps as I can. Apps like social media, photo and video, filters, adding keyboards, marketing, business, payments, etc I have found so many great apps from trying all the newest available in the AppStore.

I recently bought an iPhone 7. 7 is my favourite number so I predictively had to get it. I agonized about the 7 or the 7 Plus for months. For women who understand, I wanted to get a bigger phone so I could type easier with long nails. I know, it’s boujee but whatevs I like to have nice things. I need to be reachable at all times for my children emergencies or doctor appointments..etc

Aside from the usual kerfuffle with carrier activations and plans, I couldn’t be happier. So far so good, my relationship with my phone is growing. Lol I know I’m weird.

Have a great one!

SS

What just happened?!

I can’t believe how blessed my life has been lately! It feels like everything I’ve done up to this point has finally come full circle. Through the struggles and disappointments, I’ve definitely learned that those were all life lessons to redirect me back on course to my goals and the positive person I am. My goals are finally in fruition and I’m ecstatic!

It took a few years however they were years well spent in learning about myself while making my business “base” secure. I feel a wave of more fun happening with my loving family and my beautiful friends. I’m completely surrounded by positivity and I can’t help but smile every morning. 😊😁

Since I’m a dedicated to make blog dedicated to reborn doll artists so if you’re interested in what I do and my artwork come and check it out! ❤️. My Reborn Artist

Action and Progress

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You know those corny sayings that seem to clog the internet, you know, the ones where they are supposed to inspire you or uplift you?  I read those quotes and I find one common thread between them all and that is the moment I was reading them, I should have been moving on and taking the next step towards my goal.  As positive as they are, these are things we should be telling ourselves on a daily basis.  I’m a strong believer in self preservation for the sake of the quality of life that you really want.

I was doing research, making appointments, drafting plans… and I stopped myself and smiled.  In all my adulthood, 2017 has been the best I have had yet.  I used to do things here and there, not out of things I had to do but for things I felt I needed to do.  Going with the flow and letting go of this invisible control we all think we have.

Today, I started to notice how all the things I’ve been doing up to this point have come to fruition.  I used to get stressed out when I didn’t know what was going to happen after working so hard.  Now, I find myself smiling more and knowing that this whole journey was preparing me for something bigger than just what I love to do.  I’m on my way to fulfill that mission I gave to myself.

My new addiction… The art of letting go…

SS

Over already?!

It's the Civic Holiday weekend and it feels like the summer months passed by so fast! I blame most of this on the weirdest weather I've seen in years! It would rain so hard it sounded like hail against my windows, thunderstorms at least once a week followed by extreme heat where I could hardly breathe. Although, I'd rather have this weather than the upcoming winter months.

The back-to-school supplies and clothing are in all the stores, I can almost hear my bank account cry for my school shopping days that are just around the corner. It will be an emotional school year for me as my last little pterodactyl will be leaving the nest to go to school. So far, he knows his numbers up to 10 and backwards, but he refuses to sing the alphabet song lol. Thanks to the iPad he does know what the letters are, but he just doesn't like the song. I'm guessing that he thinks the song is dumb, he rolls his eyes every time I ask him to sing it.

Lately, my days are filled with doll orders and event planning. It's a truly exciting time for me. I have found what I love in all aspects of my life from the kids, social life and now my artistry. They often say that when your personal life is good everything else around is chaos. I am living proof that the saying is NOT true. We all need to find the balance in our own lives or things get harder and harder to do. It's like the universe makes some things in our lives difficult in order to accept something better in our lives. "Out with the old, in with the new" has a deeper meaning than we think. This whole year has unraveled many important life choices for me. My family relationships have been stronger now than ever, financial security is finally here, reuniting with my childhood best friend, maintaining deeper relationships with my friends from all over my online world and forming new amazing friendships who have cleared my mind and settled my soul.

Yes, you can have it all, yes abundance is attainable. If you want these things, you have to release everything that you know is holding you back. It will seem so difficult to let go, but it will be worth it and those difficult moments you are experiencing right now, will be in your distant past. Right when you're about to give up hope is when you have to gather up as much strength as you have to get through the rough moments. You will see your end goals, not when YOU want to see it, but when you're ready to accept it.

SS

Gadget Review: Adrienne Vittadini Studio Wallet with phone charger

It’s been awhile since I’ve done a gadget review, however I had to say something about this pretty yet purposeful gadget targeted to women.

I found this product in Winners while looking for a new replacement for a wallet I’ve had for over 3 years.  I sifted through many styles including a Tommy Hilfiger one and I had to decide between the two.  This is a wallet designed by Adrienne Vittadini it has a phone charger BUILT IN!

I am on my phone all day so yes I have to charge my phone before I leave then pray that my battery isn’t going to die.  I drain my battery about halfway through my day and it is so annoying.  This battery charger has already been a saviour!

The inside pouch has a semi-detachable charge station built inside secured by 2 snap buttons.  It has a micro usb cord with a lightning adapter.  Simple instructions on how to use the usb; flashing red light means charging solid red light means fully charged, blue means charging device. I have an iPhone SE and it fits perfectly in this wallet which has a wrist loop.  I was looking to downsize my ever swollen wallets of the past and this is a great incentive to do it.  So far, when I need an extra charge it’s right there and can be charged discretely without loose external batteries hanging around which isn’t very cute.  Yes as a gadget gal, I will fall for anything that makes gadgets look cute.

If you have a chance to find this wallet or something similar, I highly recommend you pick one up to add to your summer fashion accessories.  This will make an awesome gift for your fellow gadgeteers.  If I find more of these wallets I’m gonna pick one up for my Mom.  😀

SS

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