Real Talk..

Ok rather than answer separate messages and email I will open it up on here.

As an online personality, radio host and mother I want to make this shit clear. I have a sassmouth, I express myself online and on the airwaves with other co-hosts I will not edit myself and we all like me that way.

Just by watching you all over the past 6 months, I can see how suspicious and scared you are about new people and things out of the norm. I get it. What you see is what you get when it comes to me. I’ve been bullied all my life and I’m not about to feel that way ever again especially when none of you know me. I have great ideas, they don’t all work out, obviously, but the intentions are always good. I wanted to present our own Canadian show because we deserve one. I don’t know and don’t care about the drama or history in your community that is for you to hash out. It’s not my focus. My focus is to provide a space where new artists and vendors can sell their dolls and accessories to serious doll collectors. I took a leap wth investors, friends and most of you who supported it. Overall, it happened and I learned a lot.

For example, y’all cycles synched up so 4 days is too many days. Meals are too expensive so that won’t happen again. I welcome proper feedback here. Smart ass comments will be deleted and you will be banned from my site.

From the feedback I’ve received via email and private messaging in the last 24 hours most of you actually want to help make it better for next year.

This is the only reason I will even consider another show.

Instead of bashing something we cannot change I welcome feedback here and here only. If you want to show everyone how good the community is then prove it. I introduced people, who have been following me for years, to my doll making passion and they are all very intrigued.

I want a new community with more support than hate.

Your choice.

A word of warning..

This post is about a hard lesson I had to learn. Friendship and business will not work if one of the parties has suspect motives.

I started an event with someone I thought I could trust.

In November 2017, we discussed our plans and I signed a contract for the show venue with a deposit. We both paid the deposit. She then suggested that I change my website to American money and she would have her IT person to run it. It was HORRIBLE and the IT didn’t return my calls nor give a simple email. And so… the sabotage began…

The whole point of starting a Doll show in Canada is because my fellow Canadian artists were struggling to attend American shows with our Canadian dollar so weak. Because she is a stubborn ass, she didn’t like the way my show was planned, she wanted all the attention on her booth space and that was not fair to my other vendors. I also didn’t agree with the website being priced in US dollars for a Canadian show! So I took my website back. She was not happy. She then asked me to use this joke of a planner who wanted to stick signs in the ground for a college that was in the worst part of my city. I should’ve known when she left a family emergency to have a meeting with me and this other planner! Who would choose a meeting over family?! Also not my style.

I should’ve known that when someone talks about every single artist’s love life and personal struggle they probably don’t have much of a life and they are not a trustworthy person. She would tell me all kinds of space cadet things about how wonderful her life was and how “nice” she was however her own family member warned me about her. In reality, she is a struggling business woman with very shady business practices.

I allowed my dolls to be in her store to show my work. She did not purchase them. I never accepted a discount for any supplies that I purchased that is not my style to do, I’m an artist investing in myself. Her paint was dry and it ruined some of my dolls I was preparing for the show. I was devastated and didn’t think I could fix them in time, but I didn’t give up and fixed them!

4 months before the show, I was to have my first medical infusion instead of showing support she told me she was backing out because she didn’t understand why I was compensating the teachers with a booth, travel and hotel accommodations. It seemed pretty straightforward but I guess in all her years she lost her common sense.

After over a year of planning and 4 months before the show and medical recovery, my husband would not let me cancel the show. With the risk of death looming and I was losing my vision, I asked him to make sure my children understood that I wanted to do something good for the artwork that saved my mental and physical state over 10 years ago. Our backer was now sabotaging me and our plans. It was sad and pathetic.

My family begged me not to cancel the show, my son was preparing speeches, my family was preparing to travel from all over the world.. vendors were preparing, participants were emailing me how excited they were.. I had to either cancel or keep going.

Out from nowhere, another friend came to the rescue. She would not let me quit and did everything she could to make sure I was recovering and as stress free as possible. We whipped up whatever we could and continued on with plans. Of course there were hiccups and confusion, overall I’m extremely proud of what my team of family and friends accomplished.

In order to have peace of mind and to close this chapter I decided to write the following personal letter and I would love your opinions:

Over much deliberation I’ve decided to continually support all my Canadian entrepreneurs with those who have proper business practices. I will not deal with thieves and those that extort money from artists.

I still haven’t received my money for my Liam doll that was sold for $750 October 2018 and while I was recovering from a serious infusion my husband and my friend had to pay $900 to get my dolls back. Luckily, my artwork was brought back to me and I was able to put them in my booth!

Lol when I received a pile of unorganized hand written invoices with no back up documentation and what I allegedly “owed” I was told that the amount was in American but purchased from a Canadian store that is so weird! So I converted it and uh.. it turned out I would’ve owed only $300 but wait I also sold a doll for $450 and still nothing in my hand. I’ve been in business for many years and this kind of practice is just so strange. I may not be a famous artist but I do know that someone that preys on an artist’s hard work through “friendship” is really someone I will never want to deal with in any fashion. All is not lost I will buy my kits directly from the sculptors I love because I want every penny to go to them, I know what the actual definition of integrity is. Do you know?

Leave a comment and let me know if I should send it.

The End of Probibition – Canada 10/17/2018

*CLICK FOR PODCAST* The End of Prohibition

Today was an interesting one it is now officially legal to consume cannabis and it marks the beginning of so many more opportunities. I discuss them in my latest podcast episode below. Enjoy and share your thoughts!

Much love

SS ❤️

Check out my episode “Episode 8 The End of Prohibition – Canada 10/17/18” from Stiletto Moments on Anchor: https://anchor.fm/stilettosupermom/episodes/Episode-8-The-End-of-Prohibition—Canada-101718-e2ava0

Over already?!

It's the Civic Holiday weekend and it feels like the summer months passed by so fast! I blame most of this on the weirdest weather I've seen in years! It would rain so hard it sounded like hail against my windows, thunderstorms at least once a week followed by extreme heat where I could hardly breathe. Although, I'd rather have this weather than the upcoming winter months.

The back-to-school supplies and clothing are in all the stores, I can almost hear my bank account cry for my school shopping days that are just around the corner. It will be an emotional school year for me as my last little pterodactyl will be leaving the nest to go to school. So far, he knows his numbers up to 10 and backwards, but he refuses to sing the alphabet song lol. Thanks to the iPad he does know what the letters are, but he just doesn't like the song. I'm guessing that he thinks the song is dumb, he rolls his eyes every time I ask him to sing it.

Lately, my days are filled with doll orders and event planning. It's a truly exciting time for me. I have found what I love in all aspects of my life from the kids, social life and now my artistry. They often say that when your personal life is good everything else around is chaos. I am living proof that the saying is NOT true. We all need to find the balance in our own lives or things get harder and harder to do. It's like the universe makes some things in our lives difficult in order to accept something better in our lives. "Out with the old, in with the new" has a deeper meaning than we think. This whole year has unraveled many important life choices for me. My family relationships have been stronger now than ever, financial security is finally here, reuniting with my childhood best friend, maintaining deeper relationships with my friends from all over my online world and forming new amazing friendships who have cleared my mind and settled my soul.

Yes, you can have it all, yes abundance is attainable. If you want these things, you have to release everything that you know is holding you back. It will seem so difficult to let go, but it will be worth it and those difficult moments you are experiencing right now, will be in your distant past. Right when you're about to give up hope is when you have to gather up as much strength as you have to get through the rough moments. You will see your end goals, not when YOU want to see it, but when you're ready to accept it.

SS

Dusty Coins

I’ve paved my path with gold, but the path lead to deception,
I filled my heart with love, but my heart ended up breaking,
I built my castle with all I had, but it crumbled under my tears,
I pressed on with all my hope, but I’m tired after all these years,
Like a vine on a trellis I’ll keep climbing even when things look bleak,
Like a dusty coin I’ll keep shining and one day I’ll find my peace.

2016 in Full Swing!

Yes!!  It’s finally here a brand new bouncing baby New Year being just over 1 week young, the future looks bright.

With the new year comes the hard blowing winds and flurries of snow to my part of Canada.  I was expecting the snow and flurries but it spent no time making an ice crust around my neighbourhood.

I have spent the majority of the first week of January easing back into the children’s routine.  Since I rarely like to go out when the weather is this blustery I have to thank the internet for  online shopping once again.  As a mom of 6 kids, 1 girl and 5 boys, I’m always looking out for great items.  Not just the bargain clothing by bulk, but some good quality clothing can also last a lot longer.  As a consumer, of course I want more quality for my money, however I am willing to pay a bit more just for peace of mind that whatever I purchase will come with excellent customer care should I run into any issues.

I hope to open up more to you this year, and show you more of the details of my life through more posts and social media updates.  I have so many things planned  which are coming up very soon.

Thank you to all my oh so loyal readers who have continuously shown me so much support.

I’ll update you all on a daily basis!

Yay for 2016!

Much love my Sweets!

SS

Latest videos:

#WhatIsLifeVlogs S1V7 It’s A Morning

#WhatIsLifeVlogs S1V6 Bedroom confessions & addictions

#WhatTheFace An Evening Out

 

What a Week!

It’s Sunday and the week is officially over and I couldn’t be happier.  I had an unusually productive week that lead to a relaxing weekend.  I’ve been making my Christmas lists and planning out the colour scheme of this years Christmas.  Being in the new house makes this year extra special and makes me more excited about all the holiday activities I have planned for the kids.

I’ve been editing and uploading new videos to my YouTube channel more regularly and I’m enjoying the routine.   I’ve been working on some projects with my sons and we’ve all been having such a great time.  My kids never cease to amaze me with their fabulous ideas, they inspire me every day!

I hope everyone has a fabulous day, much love to you all! 😉

SS

Here are my most recent uploads:

Mixed Blind Bag Toy Review
#WhatIsLifeVlogs S1V3: It’s raining…Let’s buy stuff!
#WhatTheFace : 30-minutes-or-less Look

Lil Man’s Operation

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Nothing can humble a parent more than when they require an operation.  Although it was considered “minor” the powerless feeling was so overwhelming when they wheeled him out of the room in a steel crib that resembled an animal cage.

The newest hospital improvement is now a random number attached to the patient’s name.  The waiting room has a huge monitor to watch and track the patient’s whereabouts.  It’s a lot like the airport monitors where one searches through to look for their flight number.  He stared at me with his great big eyes and it took everything I had to not breakdown and cry.

The whole hospital visit took about 5 hours.

It took about 3 days for the pain to finally subside and his appetite has finally come back.  I’ve been awake on 24hour on-call nurse duties so, I’m happy that he’s back to his   sleep schedule.

Now that my son is healing, I’ve  been able to film and edit so you will be seeing much more of the video projects I’ve been working on as well as my radio show shenanigans.

Click the links to see my recent and previous videos:

StilettoSupermom Channel
#WhatIsLifeVlogs:
#WhatIsLifeVlogs S1V1: Operation Day

Much love to you all and thanks again for all your support during my son’s hospital stay.   Take care! 🙂

SS

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The Test

When you are away and
I feel all alone

I carry you with me
Where ever I go

I’ll wait for you
Through all sleepless nights

The sadness hidden
and emptiness I fight

You’re out of my hands and
Far from my grasp

I cling to the moments
We shared in our past

Until we unite and
We finally embrace

I’ll keep living life
With a smile on my face

There is no guarantee and
My trust issue is tested

I think of your promise
My heart is invested

I don’t have to wonder
What my future will be

I just drift off to dream and
It’s you who I see

More hurdles…oh well!

Late Spring 2014

 

The weather here in Canada is finally starting to get warmer and I’ve been enjoying the sun.  I love waking up in the morning, having a nice warm cup of coffee or tea as I sit and listen to the nature around me.  What’s so great about my neighbourhood is how quiet it is in the A.M.  I’m far enough away from the noise of the morning traffic… although the birds in all their Spring glory sometimes drive me a little crazy.

I’ve had to arrange and rearrange my plans due to the fact that my lovely father has decided to surprise me with his arrival from the Philippines.  It has, yet again, delayed my plans.  I’m frustrated, but I know that a couple days of a delay won’t be so bad.

I was supposed to be on a plane to Chicago tomorrow morning, but since my dad will be here at 3 am, I had to cancel my flight and my hotel… such a bummer.

I will be rebooking my trip next week and will be on my way!  I’m definitely getting anxious to travel, it’s been too long and I’ve got places to go and people to see! 😉

I hope you all had a great weekend and to my American friends I wish you all a very happy Memorial Day! 😀

SS

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