Movie Review: Searching

Searching

I’ve been picking out some pretty great movies lately and I had to tell you about the movie Searching, on Netflix. The way it was filmed and written was really done well. If you like investigative online sleuthing you will LOVE this movie.

The movie had an in-the-moment feel and brought some serious security issues we need to be aware of while being online. Our children may live in our homes but we may not know everything we should. This movie also impressed me by the way it showed different ways you may be able to use in order to also help find missing people. We can take it for what it is. I felt strongly vindicated as a parent with trusting your gut. As parents we need to be disruptive and nosey about their lives. When you’re a parent it’s your only job.

Spoiler alert! It ends with a twist. I hope you enjoy the movie and the way the director and editor created it. Take care!

Stiletto

Another Weekend but I just wanna Chill

I just wanna chill kind of weekend. With my recent dog napping event… Oh wait, I haven’t explain that one..

Yes.. This happened a few days ago. A very bold person tried to take my dog out of my yard. It’s incredible how the lockdown hasn’t deterred people to do horrible things. Instead of boxing myself in I decided to own my space. I have to admit to being more complacent lately.

My best friend posted this picture on Facebook to help find her

A new year means I am doing meaningful work. My energy has been improving more and more each day. Preserving my energy and using it in small doses of energy doesn’t really sit well with me and I’ve been learning how to cope. The anxiety that my home was violated makes me feel angry. Like who does this in one of the scariest time of our lives?

I guess this is my wakeup call and also a reason that I’m up late, shopping on Amazon. My hope is that I get a glimpse of this person. I want to catch them. That should be a really fun time!

Stay safe!

Stilletto

The Battle of the Platforms Part 1

I’m sure we have all been swirled in the mixing pot of updates and platforms it can be frustrating and confusing. I created my website around 10 years ago with my goal of doing reviews and self expression. I have always highly encouraged people to own their own websites then push it out to as many social media platforms as possible. Unfortunately, over time we got it backwards. I see more and more social media platforms take precedents over our voices. I see more and more users silenced and encouraged to become puppets and the social media platforms hold the strings. Giving up your data to apps is kind of like paying the piper with no real return. Through the years of observation I would guess that 90% of people don’t actually read the Terms and Conditions of their soon to be downloaded apps because most users are so excited to get the latest and greatest apps. I’ve watched people of all ages make themselves physically sick with worry about what they wrote, what others wrote and more and more I see good people crumble within themselves.

I’ve watched the steady decline of every “big” app and I experienced the rise and fall of the latest and greatest. I’ve produced and promoted my own shows and content which is, in itself, tough work. The best part is that I have the freedom to push my content to specific platforms. These platforms are designed to make money. They make money from paid promotions, audience size and use your data to justify their rankings in the stock market. Too much truth right? Let’s continue…

Let’s start with Facebook…

Ah yes the all powerful Facebook was designed with specific AI (Arificial Intelligence) from the time it was launched. I come from the background before internet, there were bulky monitors, green texts and symbols. We used our computers to look up products and place orders. I worked in an IT firm where we sold Microsoft licenses, hardware, software, dongles, Nikon cameras and more. We sourced for huge companies and I made really incredible contacts. Dial up Internet was the rage and Nokia cellphones were the main phone you could drop it you could easily replace its broken casing. Y2K was the biggest fear to companies but as IT specialists, we knew way in advance and it was a simple code to move our systems from 1999 to 2000. Crazy right? This was also a moment in time where Apple was not even a key player in business, we referred to Apple products as toys for kids, like a cute video game. Apple products didn’t fit in a Microsoft world of business. Moving forward, with our plastic Nokias and the business version, that you could only buy for business, was the Blackberry. I’ll get into phones in another post.

Back then, technology was getting faster and more advanced. The dial up was now in almost every household. We were getting more tech-savvy and we wanted a way to stay in touch because texting was still pricey per text. Gone were the days of ICQ and other online chats where we met people and yes people would troll each other in those rooms too. Think of these chat rooms like a bunch of mini apps where the administrators create the room and monitor them online dial up. Facebook was born and offered a way to keep in touch and share photos and such. It was an exciting way to catch up and communicate. It was especially important to families who were spread out around the world. We wrote posts updating our lives and main life events. Eventually, businesses were added and the rest is what you see today. Facebook became an obsession and a platform for adult and children bullying. Chain letter forwarding through private messages breeds more stealing of identity, unsatisfied customers making horrid reviews destroying businesses. What I see on Facebook now is so far from what it was meant to do it is sad. When Mark Zuckerburg got himself into some hot water over the AI and gathering of information he unknowingly unleashed a “beast” that is now impossible to undo. Facebook itself has a questionable future despite these so called ratings that favour Facebook by users alone. I’m watching Facebook crumble and despite these Facebook loyalists, I’ve been in the tech biz long enough to see the signs. My personal opinion is not in favour of the Facebook platform for my mentioned reasons and so much more. The AI and information gathering has transformed itself into an intrusive way for others to know about intimate details of your lives. This “safe space” has developed TV shows like Catfish and movies like Unfriended. It saddens me that a seemingly innocent app started off with such promise has now turned into a mixed bag of good and crazy.

Let’s move on to Twitter…

Twitter has been my go-to social media spot but I have observed their huge decline over the years as well. Twitter is like a huge chat room. Nothing like Facebook. I found Twitter to be filled with amazing writers, poets, comedians, business partners everything I love. There really isn’t anything to “get” about this platform. You basically write words, let off some steam, make people laugh and even make business connections which are an excellent way to network. It was freeing to be able to express myself and not be judged. You receive real time news and information which is excellent. Over the last few years I see where Twitter has been failing. It’s turning into a bad generic form of itself. Censorship is starting to run rampant as more and more people leave the platform. What was once a playground of expression is now turning into a long list of rules that don’t apply to anyone. For business and promotion it’s been growing it’s commerce flooding timelines with ads which is great but if Twitter keeps banning tweets reprimanding paying business accounts, they won’t have any users and business partners left to send these ads to.

In short, my stance is still “Find your voice and own your space online”. Getting wrapped up with follower numbers and complaining to tech support is not going to get you far in your online adventure. Social media is an extension to bring people to your content. I often ask people who talk about their follower count, where are you taking your followers to? 98% of people cannot answer this simple question. I’m a strong believer in self empowerment and I believe that users need to understand that no app is forever. All content you upload belongs to that platform. Let me repeat every picture, every word, every account belongs to your favourite app. You’re a number and if you bring more people to their app you can fill their pockets and potentially lose your “followers” should they choose.

The Battle of the Platforms will be an ongoing battle as apps come and go, users come and go.

My questions to you is..

Who are you? What do you do? Where can people meet you? Why do you want to be online? How will your voice be heard?

Battle of the Platforms continue to Part 2..

An Afternoon

It feels like it’s been a million days into quarantine and keeping the kids’ spirits up is a job in itself. So.. I’ve been baking and self teaching how to make dishes from scratch. If you check out my Pinterest I’ve created a Recipe board of dishes I’ve tried and going to try.

An afternoon snack, good ol’ cookies and milk

The above is a recipe I’ve sworn by because it quickly puts smiles on the faces of my family. I’ve also made variations of these recipes which I will share over the next couple of weeks. I’m adjusting ingredients and adding fresh ingredients.

I think it’s important to get back to our roots and learn and teach the basics of cooking and baking in such a questionable time. Our kids may not have a traditional school but I opted to keep teaching them what I feel they need to know to live freely.

Batches of baked treats!

Stay safe and practice social distancing. People can be selfish, which is in itself a dangerous mindset to practice. Regardless of facts, or just plain ignorance you cannot change them. Misery loves company so steer clear. This “It’s not real, it’s a conspiracy..” is irresponsible and misleading. Educate yourself, is it better to be overly safe or close to death.

Choose happiness my friends, it’s just a belief away.

Having Fun on the Air Waves

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Stiletto Afterdark

It’s been an action packed few days getting some work done.  Today, I made some home made lasagna and ramen noodles and some homemade butter tarts.  It’s been a challenge but I’m determined to get my own butter tart recipe perfected.  It’s the first few days of Spring everyone’s getting more antsy with the warm weather but it’s still too soon.  I still have the children and myself inside our reasonably sterile air.  I’ve slowly been preparing myself for the next transfusion only this time I have a couple of amazing fellow MS friends that I’m looking forward to seeing in person.  I’m not sure what the protocols will be for the next infusion but we all can’t wait to get “juiced up”.

I did an impromptu radio segment with my friend and it was so much fun.  I love doing live radio show with the most primal equipment.  I had a lapel mic, my iPhone and my computer software.  We will be doing more episodes and I will be finishing up some editing so I can upload some great stuff I’ve been doing to pass the quarantine time away.  It can’t all be doom and gloom, sometimes things have to be destroyed before something better can be built.  I feel that truth every time I’ve opened my eyes to a new day.

It’s the time to really invest in yourself, find what you’re good at and enjoy doing it.  The world may be so uncertain right now but spending time learning and teaching my boys has been so much fun.  They’ve been enjoying their online courses and we are learning how to make homemade foods.  I can safely say that not only has it been fun but it has also saved us a lot in the grocery bill.  I’m working on some pasta recipes, meal ideas and desserts that have been keeping my family busy.

I hope you are inspired and are creating some new activities and projects to keep you busy throughout the days.

I’ll share much more very soon!

Much love,

SS

New Episode:

Any Shyte Nite Stiletto Afterdark with Kizzi Girl

Getting back into a groove

September 2019 is here the kids are in school in full swing and I’m getting myself ready for my much anticipated radio adventure.  I’ve finally completed all the work in the background which is imperative so I can make active and progressive moves.  I’ve had many radio shows either sole hosting or co-hosting and it has been so much fun.  Not only have I had fun but I’ve learned from so much from my technology-loving partners and friends.

For this round and with full support, partnerships and sponsors I’m confident there is still so much more fun to be had.  We are putting some interviews together with upcoming artists and their latest tracks.  Schedules are being finalized for live stream shows both video and radio collabs and omg I can’t wait!

The show will be available soon on other platforms like iHeart radio, Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Castbox, Deezer and many more.  The below links are available now and are also available with the Spreaker and Spotify apps.

Follow my social medias and if you want to be a part of the show, make sure you download Skype!

Chat with y’all soon

SS

Spreaker: Straight to the Points: Stabbing Fish

Spotify: Straight to the Points: Stabbing Fish

Cakes & Pies

Summer is in full force and things are looking pretty amazing.  I am finally able to move things around and get organized before the Back to School storm.  Over the last couple of weeks I’ve been focusing on my baking skills and some snacks for the boys after they have their many sessions of basketball, football and playing catch.

Many years ago, when I had 4 kids all under the age of 10 and living in Alberta, Canada, my children’s favourite snack were chocolate chip cookies.  They were very particular about the kind of cookie the requested, though, they had to be “Hockey Cookies”.  My neighbour introduced the recipe to me and told me they were the perfect recipe for those cold after school days and we found very soon after that they were good for every day for my kids. My neighbour explained that she would make these cookies for her sons after hockey games and practice.

Now that I have some extra time on my hands, I’ve decided to resurrect my joy of cooking and what better way than cookies?  Naturally, I turned to Pinterest to see if I could find the recipe and I also wondered if it was the same?  The name is now “Hockey Puck” chocolate chip cookies and using a muffin tin is a fabulous “Eureka” moment!  I used the good old baking sheet method with this recipe and it didn’t hold at all which had NOTHING to do with the recipe!  I had to finagle the recipe, for example, I didn’t have Vanilla Extract, walnuts nor corn syrup.  I also forgot that 2 sticks of butter does not mean a full bar.  At my grocery store, I usually get a bar of butter that is equivalent to 2 cups of butter instead of 1 cup of butter. So yup, you guessed it I totally over buttered the whole recipe.  I problem solved my way into finding a deep dish casserole baking pan and scooped the rest of the batter into it.  I set the oven for the same baking temperature and time.

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After cooling the Hockey Puck cookies turned into a dense Hockey Rink Cookie Cake!  In less than 12 hours the rink was devoured.  With more requests from my pterodactyls, I corrected the recipe with using the proper amount of cookies, I still didn’t add the walnuts, corn syrup nor the vanilla extract however it still tasted delicious!  The third try remained fluffy with the denseness of a brownie or a Hello Dolly dessert. I was thinking of doing a spin on this Hockey Rink Cookie Cake with Hello Dollies hmmm… a Hockey Hello Dolly, a Rinkside Hello Dolly Cookie Cake?  I’ll work on the dessert and I’d love for you to give me ideas on a name!

If you try the original and my spin on the recipe let me know!

Thank you to Great Grub, Delicious Treats for your inspiration and your fantastic recipe!

Much Love,

SS

#chocolatechipcookies #baking #stilettosupermom #noms

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What’s below?

I wonder..

I watched the movie Us and I’m totally going to spoil it so if you haven’t seen it, my apologies and I’ll omit many of the details. It made me think about what really goes on underground. As genius human beings we’ve developed massive sewer systems, subways, trains, etc in more recent years we’ve witnessed sinkholes in the middle of our cities.. but I digress. My thoughts are what if we were forced to live underground and what if it want that bad?

I’d like to think as common sense beings we are actually closer to utopia as we are giving ourselves credit for. I’ve had some time away from the noise of television, radio and forms of social media and there’s so much more out there. I’m going to be a bit “zen” right now and tell you to choose your happiness. With all the mental noise and calamity available to us and that we carry around, what if one day it all stopped. The internet, radio, television all stopped and we were forced to live below?

We’ve been growing some herbs and vegetables with my sons and they’ve been loving it. I asked my nephews and sons of they could picture their lives without the internet and their PS4. I swear their faces looked as if they needed a few days to process it. I’ve accepted and welcome the amazing developments of technology and medicine. I disagree with our education system’s lack of focus on our children’s ability to read and write in cursive and sign names on forms and documents. Overall it’s not such a bad place to live in our most current timeline. What if we had to reset all our lives but could only live underground? No internet, no cars, no money?

SS

Enjoy my latest Stiletto Moments podcast:

Diving deep underneath me

Real Talk..

Ok rather than answer separate messages and email I will open it up on here.

As an online personality, radio host and mother I want to make this shit clear. I have a sassmouth, I express myself online and on the airwaves with other co-hosts I will not edit myself and we all like me that way.

Just by watching you all over the past 6 months, I can see how suspicious and scared you are about new people and things out of the norm. I get it. What you see is what you get when it comes to me. I’ve been bullied all my life and I’m not about to feel that way ever again especially when none of you know me. I have great ideas, they don’t all work out, obviously, but the intentions are always good. I wanted to present our own Canadian show because we deserve one. I don’t know and don’t care about the drama or history in your community that is for you to hash out. It’s not my focus. My focus is to provide a space where new artists and vendors can sell their dolls and accessories to serious doll collectors. I took a leap wth investors, friends and most of you who supported it. Overall, it happened and I learned a lot.

For example, y’all cycles synched up so 4 days is too many days. Meals are too expensive so that won’t happen again. I welcome proper feedback here. Smart ass comments will be deleted and you will be banned from my site.

From the feedback I’ve received via email and private messaging in the last 24 hours most of you actually want to help make it better for next year.

This is the only reason I will even consider another show.

Instead of bashing something we cannot change I welcome feedback here and here only. If you want to show everyone how good the community is then prove it. I introduced people, who have been following me for years, to my doll making passion and they are all very intrigued.

I want a new community with more support than hate.

Your choice.